Most of the time we lack self-esteem simply because we don’t have a positive opinion about ourselves. Do you stand in front of the mirror and actually feel good and approve of what you see? ( I often do not!)
If we feel good about ourselves that means we develop confidence which boosts our self-esteem. They go hand in hand. You have the freedom to think anything you want. So why not create the habit to accept yourself for who you are with love and appreciation?
Below I have extracted a wonderful exercise from one of the great authors for self help – Louise Hay. You’ve probably noticed that I have quoted her quite often. Hope this will help you remember the love and appreciation you once felt about yourself.
” Mirror work is simple and very powerful. Mirror work simply means looking into a mirror when you say your affirmations. Mirrors reflect our true feelings back to us.
As children we received most of our negative messages from adults. Many of them looking us straight in the eye and perhaps even shaking a finger at us. Most of us today when we look into a mirror will say something negative to ourselves. We either criticize our looks or berate ourselves for something. To look yourself in the eye and make a positive declaration about yourself is one of the quickest ways to get positive results.
With affirmations I ask people to look in their eyes and say something positive about themselves. Every time they pass a mirror and if something unpleasant happens to you during the day immediately go to the mirror and say I love you anyway. You see events come and go but the love you have for yourself can be constant and it is the most important quality you possess in your life.
If something wonderful happens go to the mirror and say thank you. Acknowledge yourself for creating this wonderful experience.
First thing in the morning and last thing in the evening I want you to look into your eyes and say I love you I really love you and I accept you exactly as you are!
It can be tough at first but if you stick with it in a short time this affirmation will be true for you and won’t that be fun? You will find that as your self-love grows so will your self-respect and any changes that you find yourself needing to make will be easier to accomplish.
More about the exercise, listen to the video below.
Smiles and Hugs