“If you had not suffered as you have, there would be no depth to you as a human being, no humility, no compassion”
– Eckhart Tolle
The person you look at in the mirror may not be the person you think he or she is. Most of our self-awareness comes from our perceptions of how we think we appear to others. Just how accurate our thoughts about ourselves are, is usually dependent on our life circumstances and the people and events that have shaped our perceptions.
Some people have achieved a sense of acceptance of whom they are and where they fit into the world. For many people however, the public image they portray to others may not be a true reflection of their feelings.
Self-talk convinces many people that there is nothing good in them or their lives. This creates tension and sadness that can manifest itself in destructive ways. It can affect relationships and health if not countered.
How do people develop negative feelings towards themselves?
Often, they are the result of events where someone we love, or trust say or do things that make us feel bad about ourselves. It begins to affect the way we think and feel about ourselves and how we appear to others.
Escaping the negative feelings means learning to love the unique person we are. It also means learning to allow others into our lives again without the fear of hurt or rejection. We can do this alone by consciously rejecting the inner voice and countering it with a reminder of all the blessings and successes in our life.